What to wear to a wedding – do’s and don’ts

I love everything about a wedding, we have celebrated three of our closest friends marry this year and if truth be told I am a little sad to be hanging up my dresses and open toe shoes for another year. So far we have one wedding next year, I have my fingers crossed another invitation makes its way through our letterbox soon. What do you love about a wedding? For me its all about the styling – the dress, the flowers, the venue, the little details you see as you enjoy the day and and lets not forget the discotheque. Once all the formalities are out of the way and after a little touch up in the bathroom there is nothing better than seeing your friends dancing the night away.

Dress (Needle and Thread Ready to Wear), Shoes (Dorothy Perkins)

I don’t know about you but as a wedding guest finding the perfect look can be a little daunting, especially when there have been hen parties and weddings throughout the year and often all during different seasons. This year we have had weddings in May, August and September. Thankfully all three days the sun shone and I didn’t have to change my outfit at the last minute. I would highly recommend re-wearing a dress from a previous wedding, not that I have managed to do this myself as this year the weddings have been all from the same friendship circle. But if you can, you should!

Let’s talk style… from beach weddings (light colors and flowing fabrics are key) to more formal affairs the type of wedding often determines the outfit a guest should wear. That said I’m going to be a little out there and say that you should always dress for you, wearing something you feel truly comfortable in is a must. It is also a little kinder on the bank as you may be able to wear it again. I have put together a few do’s and don’ts when dressing for a wedding to help guide you…

  1. It’s not all about you. Don’t steal the show. Whilst I don’t believe it is actually possible to out dress the bride, remember the bride is the main focus of attention
  2. When in doubt overdress – a dress a little on the formal side will be forgiven over a casual pair of trousers or pair of jeans
  3. Pay attention to detail – avoid wearing the same colours as the bridal party
  4. Stay away from neon colours, white (a must) and whilst I don’t always agree with this last colour – black. The wedding photos last a lifetime and you don’t want to be the one who is picked out
  5. Don’t bare it all – weddings are a great opportunity to show off your best features, but you should just stick to one like legs, back or shoulders. To avoid revealing too much a backless dress is a sexy but elegant look

Do you have a go to style for a wedding or any tips we can add to the list?



  1. 10th October 2017 / 9:05 am

    Ahhh you look stunning and what a beautiful place! Love your outfit and it looks like you had a fab time 🙂 Jess xx

    • Life As Our Little Family
      11th October 2017 / 7:56 am

      Thank you Jess, the venue was absolutely stunning. x

  2. 10th October 2017 / 9:26 am

    Oh my gosh, that dress on you looks perfect! It’s so pretty! xx

    • Life As Our Little Family
      11th October 2017 / 7:55 am

      It was one of those dresses that I knew when I first saw it. I love all the detail and the open back x

  3. Thea
    10th October 2017 / 11:10 am

    Some of your friends are breaking the rules there?! Haha! You looked lovely but can I be honest with you? When I saw the pics on insta all I wanted to do was hoist your bosoms up! Beautiful outfit but a better bra (or any bra at all – were you even wearing one?) would have made all the difference lovely x

    • Kerry
      10th October 2017 / 12:05 pm

      Hi Thea – I’m a little surprised that you think it’s appropriate to make such a personal comment about someone else’s breasts. I’m not sure how I would feel if someone took the time to criticise the appearance of my thighs or tummy in a photograph. I hope you appreciate the impact this could have on someone’s confidence. Could I ask that you to think a little more carefully before deciding to comment on someone else’s body in future? Not everyone is blessed with body confidence and comments like these can run deep xxx

      • Life As Our Little Family
        11th October 2017 / 7:55 am

        I couldn’t agree more Kerry what happened to kindness and compliments, building each other up rather than knocking each other down. I’m all for having an opinion but this seems a little personal and in all honesty does it matter whether I wore a bra or not. I think not. Thank you for your support x

    • Life As Our Little Family
      10th October 2017 / 12:23 pm

      Ha ha you made me laugh out loud Thea – there’s honesty and there’s…

      • Charlotte Jones
        10th October 2017 / 6:24 pm

        I agree with you Thea, the no bra look is rather matronly on women over a certain age. You looked beautiful, but as this is a post about wedding dos and don’ts, I would say that is a don’t!

        • Life As Our Little Family
          11th October 2017 / 7:44 am

          Lets agree to disagree on the whole bra/no bra debate but please keep your insults to yourself Charlotte. What happened to kindness and compliments or saying nothing at all.

        • Kirsty Amanda Robins
          11th October 2017 / 8:06 am

          It’s hard to hear, well read comments like this – not all of us are happy with how our bodies look now. I know that I’m not the only one. I know that there are lots of people that have this idea of this unobtainable perfect body image, and they put those unobtainable pressures on people, and some are looking at our bodies and comparing themselves to photo shopped pictures in a magazine. I feel like the media refuses to take responsibility for the effect that we have on society and the younger generation when we talk about each other in this way. Why do we judge people in all the wrong ways? It seems like all of the values are in all of the wrong things, and I’m so tired of hearing women call out other women. I think we have to think about the way that we talk about each other, and I think that we need to change the way that we see beauty. As someone from a younger generation seeing KA’s blogs on a daily basis helps me to love myself and see what can be achieved with hard work and commitment, no matter what we all struggle with on daily basis life is beautiful. So KA, I thank you for your blogs, it is women like you that our younger generation need.

      • Lou
        1st November 2017 / 7:03 pm

        Aww come on I don’t think Thea meant it in a bad way, I read it more as an ‘all girls together’ advice way. After all this is supposed to be a do and don’ts style post? I think you looked lovely but it probably wasn’t the best choice for you that’s all. I’m sure the comment wasn’t meant in an upsetting way. I give my girlfriends advice all the time and I would want my friends to be honest with me x

        • Life As Our Little Family
          2nd November 2017 / 7:19 am

          I disagree about the dress not being a good choice Lou, I loved wearing it. I think what you’re missing is my posture in the one photo that is being criticised by Thea – I am dancing and hunched up. Like you I give my girlfriends advice just as they do me, thats the point here I’m not friends with Thea and therefore her comment and another on this thread came across as being very insensitive. If I had indeed put the question out there asking for advice on the dress then yes feel free to be brutal but as I didn’t the feedback was unwelcome and didn’t come across well, just as yours didn’t ‘but it probably wasn’t the best choice for you’. The dress was a good choice and I would not change not wearing a bra. It is personal choice after all.

          • Lou
            2nd November 2017 / 8:20 am

            No of course! I’m so sorry I presumed that she was a friend of yours that’s all!!

  4. 10th October 2017 / 2:16 pm

    Dressing for a wedding is almost the only time we get to really ‘go for it’ in the glam stakes isn’t it?! I haven’t had a wedding in a few years but we have a big family one next June and I can’t wait to go shopping!! How do you feel about a red dress to a wedding? I’m not sure about that colour either… Your dress on the other hand looks stunning, I love the colour and the cut, just beautiful and so elegant.

    Re. comment above… some things are better off unsaid x

    • Life As Our Little Family
      11th October 2017 / 7:45 am

      Oh I agree, I love shopping for a dress that makes you feel special. Oh wow a wedding in June sounds perfect. I LOVE red, it isn’t a colour I wear often but I think red with navy or pink is a beautiful combination. x

  5. 11th October 2017 / 10:50 am

    Oh I absolutely LOVE your dress. You are always beautiful in all that you wear but this suits you to a tee! What a lovely number for a wedding outfit. I love going to weddings. They are one of my fave occasions to attend. It’s been years since we went to one I miss them. Sounds like you had a good time too. It’s nice to get all glammed up and out with MR for a good night out. I love neutrals and pastels for weddings. But someday maybe I might go with a bolder color if we get invited to one. #wrc

  6. 12th October 2017 / 11:55 am

    What an absolutely stunning dress Kerri Ann! It’s funny as I was actually talking through dressing for a wedding with my daughters last weekend. I had to steer E away from a white dress explaining that you just don’t wear that at a wedding as it’s the bride’s colour! xx

  7. 12th October 2017 / 7:51 pm

    I love all the glitter going on at this wedding – what a great idea for a theme! You look beautiful KA – I never know what to wear for weddings and get so stressed trying to find something to wear even though I LOVE going to weddings. I completely agree with only revealing one area eg: legs, back etc. Far more classy (and sexy) than showing everything.

  8. 12th October 2017 / 9:00 pm

    Oh you looked gorgeous and as a friend I know how those comments would have made you feel, but you are the most beautiful person inside and out and such a positive inspiration for all of us ladies who sometimes have those days when we don’t quite believe in our style, size or shape, you rock yours and promote positive body image in such a wonderful way, keep doing what you are doing lovely lady xx

  9. 14th October 2017 / 5:52 am

    Gorgeous and great tips.

    I thought you looked amazing in this dress and I loved how you gently accessorized the outfit even down to your hair xx

    • Life As Our Little Family
      15th October 2017 / 8:34 pm

      Thanks so much Kara. The dress aid it all I think x

  10. Emily
    2nd November 2017 / 9:01 am

    Arr the comments have gone a bit mad here haven’t they? Can I just say though that I read blogs like this because I’m interested in real fashion and real advice. There’s an honesty about your blog that you just don’t get with the magazines or proper fashion bloggers. With that though comes hearing things that we don’t even like. For example I’m quite short so some clothes just don’t work for me and that’s just life. Maybe accept that if your boobs are down to your waist, a backless braless dress just isn’t going to work for you. It sounds a bit brutal but it’s just being honest. That said, you said you felt amazing in it and at the end of the day that’s all that matters! Don’t let blog comments upset you lovie! Hugs and loves xx

    • Life As Our Little Family
      2nd November 2017 / 9:37 am

      They have indeed Emily but sadly in a way I don’t like. And yes it is a little upsetting but I also understand that I am putting my words and pictures out there which won’t always be agreed with however on this occasion it seems to be very personal. I am all for honesty but when it is delivered in the right way. I think it is rude to comment on another persons body, who has that right? Other than someone who in all honesty is being mean. Feel free to say the dress didn’t suit or was ugly. But I know that isn’t the case. I’m glad that you read blogs like mine because they are honest, and I hope you do continue to read them. To clarify my breasts do not hang down to my waist, for sure I know that they don’t however in a couple of these photo’s my posture isn’t as it should be – because I am dancing at a wedding. People continue to miss that point and clearly just look for a reason to be rude and negative which is what I find most disappointing about this. Thank you for popping over